There are a few reasons you may be feeling like this, and it
is far more complex than you may initially think.
First, are you ready to heal? This is the first question and
most important question to explore when you have had or deciding on a
hypnotherapy session. Now you may think this is a silly question, isn’t
everyone ready to heal? Sometimes the answer is no but I would like you to take
a minute and just really think about this question. Healing is harder than you
may think. I have spoken about this briefly in a previous blog and would like
to expand on this a little. Healing is a very in-depth experience in that it
really exposes all the things that you have hidden, for possibly months or
probably years. It scratches open and brings to the surface all that you need
to face. In some cases, it makes you realise what a hold something has had on
you, or perhaps even something in your own behaviour that you need to take ownership
of. Healing means in a lot of cases that you need to reassess who you are. Are you
these hurts and pains? Are you these experiences or behaviours? More importantly,
who are you without these things? If we take away all your hurts and pains that
you have identified with, for possibly most of your life, what is left?.
Healing is getting to you know the real you. Healing is
stripping you from all the “man-made” things to find out who you are, and, in
some cases, people do not know who they are without these hurts, traumas, fears
and pains. They hold onto this identity because this is where they feel safe, even
when in some cases you do not feel safe. Healing is realising that these things
are something that happened to you, it is not who you are. It is finding yourself without letting the
past define you, because let us be honest, all these things are always in the
past.
The second thing is hypnotherapy doesn’t take away the past.
It doesn’t take away things that has happened, it can only help you release the
emotions and energies connected to them. Rather like a bomb being diffused. The
danger of exploding is gone but the events, thoughts or memories may still be there.
The conditioning over the years that made you identify with these things, these
fears, traumas, hurts or behaviours, could possibly try to creep up when you
are not looking or make you fall back into old patterns, easy patterns of
thinking and living and you need to be aware that sometimes the conditioning
can come back without you noticing. This doesn’t mean that the hypnotherapy
didn’t work, this just means that there is more work to be done or more time needed to release the negative energy or emotions. If you do a
suggestion therapy session, you get a recording and I highly recommend my
clients to keep listening to it. If something comes back again, listen to it.
You have it, use it! In some cases, when the wound runs deep, the
reconditioning will take more than just one session but multiple sessions
or at the very least just listening to that recording.
Lastly, are you sure it didn’t work? I ask this question
because as I mentioned it is like defusing a bomb. The bomb is still there, it
just can’t explode any longer. You can still see the bomb and it is part of who
you are, it is what shaped you, but it no longer holds the power over you that
it had once before. The energy behind it has subsided. Something to remember,
hypnotherapy works on the subconscious mind and that is where the reprogramming
occurs. In many instances the change is so subtle, your conscious mind doesn’t
even pick it up. This change is deeply rooted that you don’t even notice it in some
cases. You might still notice the memory or the thought but observe, does it
have the power over you it once did?
I want to end this blog post by saying that really notice
the changes in your thoughts and life after your hypnotherapy session. You
might try new things that you didn’t think you could before. You may face a
fear that you didn’t realise you were able to, or you may just feel less tense,
less anxious, or less stressed. Or it may be as simple as not thinking that one thought that was haunting you. And that is a win for me, you can start there,
and you can build on this. There is always healing that takes place after a hypnotherapy
session, it might be under the radar, but it is there. If you come to a
hypnotherapy session expecting to have a life altering experience, you may be disappointed
because you are still you. Your experiences still happened and your memories and
past is still there.
I leave you with a thought that my grandmother always said.
Keep your eye on the doughnut and not on the hole.
Ilana